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Heartwings Love Notes 899 - Small Victories can be Big Triumphs

Heartwings says, "Your small successes are important steps toward your greater achievements."

I have a distinct memory of learning to tie my shoes. I know I was still only three, because I was attending nursery school at the time. My memory is of bending over my shoes until I had learned to wind the shoelaces into bows that would keep them tied. I can see the bedroom I slept in and feel my sense of frustration as I tried and tried to tie those laces until at last I succeeded. Then oh, how happy I was!

Just recently I had another small victory. I was able to put on my left sock all by myself. To do that sounds so simple. Yet it was the final step since my hip replacement two months ago, in my being able to get myself entirely dressed without help. To be sure up until now Stephen has been ever so kind about assisting me. Yet regardless how kind someone helping you is, it is very appealing, at least to me, to be able to do something I have always been able to do, by myself once more.

My parents weren't generous with their praise of my accomplishments. They always informed me I was supposed to do well. They were apt to say, "Now that was quite good, can you do better next time?" They thought this was how to encourage me to try harder or at least keep on trying. I, on the other hand, believe strongly in praise. My children's father taught me this. No matter how wretchedly the children he coached performed, he found a way to say some encouraging words. His teams invariably did well and I think this was one of the main reasons.

Not many of us have a coach in life to praise us, so it is up to us to pat ourselves on the back when we need encouragement, and more importantly, when we need to be acknowledged. It is not only permissible but also important to take note of our personal victories, most especially to do so for ourselves. We need to feel good for ourselves, not because someone else has praised us. When we recognize our successes we can build on them with a sense of satisfaction. When we feel satisfied with our performance we do not need to seek praise elsewhere but instead can feel good and be happy because we know for ourselves that we have done our best

May you find good things to say to yourself about how you are doin

PS Does this resonate for you? How were you raised? I cherish your emails and will always respond as soon as I can. Thanks for your readership.

 

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Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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