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Heartwings Love Notes 927 - The Blame Game

Heartwings says, "Taking responsibility is what grownups do."

The vase is broken, the favorite toy ruined, the car dented and we hear: "He/she made me…" or "I couldn't help it." Heard that before? This familiar copout is often every child's first response—except perhaps for, "I didn't do it." How do we teach children to take responsibility for their actions? It isn't easy and every parent has his or her idea how best to accomplish this. Sometimes they manage to make that happen, and the child grows up to be a responsible adult.

However all too often even as adults we are reluctant to take the responsibility we need to for our own actions. We may be afraid of the results when someone finds out. I know often I was, or we may not want someone to think ill of us, as in "how could I be so stupid as to make that mistake?" There are as many reasons as there are situations. The bottom line is that we do not like to admit to being ill advised, ignorant, or just plain absent of mind.

Blaming is something many do when they want to get out of a situation where they feel trapped or one that will lower their value in another's eyes and mind. The problem with playing the blame game is that not only is it dishonest, it is also unkind to the person or persons we may be blaming for our mistake.

I learned to own up to my responsibility only as an adult. My husband Stephen was actually the one to help me to do this. He would not allow me to get away with evading it, and would make sure I was ultimately honest. I've learned that honesty really is the best policy when it comes to admitting to wrongdoing. Feelings of guilt are thereby avoided as well as other consequences that may arise when and if the truth emerges—and all too often it will.

May you find it in your heart to be honest, even if you don't really want or fear to be.

PS What do you think? Can you be honest when you have to, regardless? I'd love it if you have something to share on this subject. Your emails make my day and I promise to respond even though—I'll be honest, it may take a while, and often does.

I love to hear from readers and would be honored if you would comment and let me know any suggestions or thoughts. If a friend sent you this, you can sign up at my web site, www.heartwingslovenotes.com, where more love notes can be found in the archives.

Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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