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Heartwings Love Notes 814 - The Many Kinds of Love

Heartwings says, "Romance is only one form for the expression of love."

A dear friend was bemoaning his recent breakup with his former girlfriend. "Nobody loves me," he mourned. "I love you," I replied. "But you love everybody," he retorted. I sighed and nodded. I wished I could cheer him up, however he seemed determined to be sad. Many crave romantic love and are not comforted by the fact that they are loved in other ways. Valentines and Valentines' Day aside, romantic love, while nice to have in one's life is not necessarily the most satisfying.

According to the Internet, the Sanskrit language has 96 words for love, ancient Persian has 80, Greek has three and we have only one. What a sad state of affairs! There are synonyms that express a loving feeling for someone or something like fondness, affection, adoration, and so on. Regardless, they do not adequately describe the love of a child for its parents, of the attachment many feel for their animal companions, or even where they live. You probably would not say, "I am fond of my baby, my cat, or feel affection for my home," you would usually say, "I love..."

The fact that we have no other word for it means that we apply the term love to many situations and individuals. We say we "love" this or that or them, yet we do not mean we have romantic feelings. Does this weaken the impact of the word? My friend's dismay when I told him I loved him might indicate that the love I had for him was somehow not as desirable or as important as the love of his girlfriend. Yet my feelings for him were actually less tinged with judgment nd more comprehensive than the ones he craved to hear from her.

Unconditional love or in Latin Caritas and in Greek Agape may be the most important of the kinds of love we can express for others or even for dwelling places or animals. That kind of love carries no criticism or parameters, no qualifiers or desire for any return. It is simply and purely love in its most beautiful form. When we are at our most loving is when we can give this love to others. It has the power to transform and to heal as well as to uplift. It is this love that the martyred St. Valentine back in the days of Rome portrays to us. Perhaps his love as he expressed it to others before he was executed might be seen as an example for us all.

May you feel as loved as you wish, and give as much love as you receive. .
 
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Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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