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Heartwings Love Notes 984 - Remembering the Fallen

Heartwings says, "Memorial Day is for remembrance of those who have fallen in life, regardless of the reason."

My father used to decorate two special graves on Memorial Day. While he also honored those of his ancestors, he made a special effort to place flowers at the base of two pink granite headstones in the Manchester Cemetary where two friends of his were buried. They were a man and his wife who were originally from England and had no relations in this country. Although they were only friends, not relatives, he felt it was important to pay his respects and to honor their passing.

I met them when I was around four. I remember their names as Lord and Lady Lindsey. They must have been members of the British aristocracy, and why they had emigrated to the USA I have no idea. I remember their kindly smiles and white hair. For many years, two ornaments they gave me: a parrot and a small penguin of china or porcelain, sat on a shelf in my bedroom. I wish now that I had thought to ask my father about them before he passed. Sadly, there are now many questions I wish I had asked him that I did not.

Life holds much to keep us busy while we live it. Some describe it as a struggle, others as a tale. Some are heroes, some villains, others live their lives in anonymity, yet are precious to friends and family. All are deserving of remembrance, for even a villain most likely did his or her best. Our choices are key to how we may be remembered, and these are often driven by forces beyond our control. Cemeteries are places to honor the fallen, and once Memorial Day was called Decoration Day.

Cemeteries are places to honor the fallen, and once Memorial Day was called Decoration Day. Observance of this day originated when some women went to decorate the graves of Civil War soldiers and didn't know which side any of them had fought on. They decorated them all without regard, and the custom spread until it became law. Perhaps all of us are soldiers of life, making our way as best we can, fighting if we need to, seeking peace when we are able. Those that fall, whether young, old or in between will be remembered for their deeds, for their gifts, and for the part they played in the lives of others. A day to remember all of them at once seems fitting.

May you commemorate those you have loved and lost in ways that soothe your heart.

How will you observe Memorial Day? Do you practice special customs or ceremonies? Do write and share your stories with me. I so love to hear from my readers. Please write to me at tashahal@aol.com, and for more love notes you might enjoy visiting my web pages at www.heartwingsandfriends.com.

 

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Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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