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Heartwings Love Notes 819 - The Preciousness of Remembering

Heartwings says, "Moments spent with loved ones can be important to memory."

The recent passing of a dear friend has brought a sense of immediacy to my relationships, and as well to my way of thinking about life in general. She and I used to speak each morning except Sundays. More than once I said to Stephen, "One day the phone will not ring at 9:30 every day." Then indeed that day did come. While I miss my friend, I know she is in a much more comfortable and happy place than she has been for some time, and I rejoice for her though I do miss her calls.

I am happy to have pleasant memories of our time together. That is the saving grace of partings. It is also serves as a reminder to focus when I am with a dear one and to be present in order to have something to remember. More and more as I get older I have come to realize that endings come whether we want them to or not. We have no way of knowing whether or not any given conversation, meeting or interaction with another may be our last. I do not say this because I have a morbid fear of endings but rather as a reminder that any time we spend with another may be significant.

When we are children we have no understanding of how it is that things change or perhaps end. That ignorance may even be important to children's comfort and sense of security. Most adults grow accustomed to change and learn to flow with it. It may be an aspect of maturity in human beings to be able to do that. In my life there have been many changes I could never have anticipated. Being able to adapt to them has been crucial to my happiness. Developing a sense of detachment to an anticipated condition of permanence has been not only valuable but also essential.

When I was a child, I could buy an ice cream cone for a nickel. Now even the smallest one costs 50 times that. The decor in my parents' living room changed once in my memory. Today many people redecorate frequently. Then divorce was rare, people stayed at the same job for most of their lives, I could go on and on about how it used to be. My point is that change is more than ever a constant in the lives of most. For our comfort it is important to be able to deal with all forms of change, whether of décor or of circumstances. When I make the time to focus my attention and to appreciate what is happening, whether with a relationship or an experience, I have much less regret when it ends.

May you enjoy to the fullest that which you wish to remember.
 

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Blessings and Best Regards,
Tasha Halpert
 

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